Everybody wants to be happy. Happiness is a choice and a state of mind and also a way of mind conditioning. Just focus on things that make you happy.
According to a Clinical Psychologist – Nick Wignall – The key to finding happiness is often less, not more. “And the more I do this work, the more I realize the key to finding happiness is often less, not more. It’s about discovering the things that are making you miserable and doing your best to eliminate them. And more often than not, those things that make us miserable are habits: subtle but powerful patterns we’ve fallen into—maybe since childhood—that gnaw away at our happiness, day after day, month after month, year after year.”
Here are 5 of the most common habits that sabotage our happiness and how to eliminate them
1. Worrying about the future and other people’s opinions of you
Worries are a normal part of life. It’s common to worry about bills, job interview, or children’s safety. But “normal” worry becomes extreme when it’s persistent and uncontrollable. You worry every day about “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, and it intervenes with your daily life.
Learn to accept the pain of what is or what might be and let go of your habit of worry and all the anxiety it generates.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. — Reinhold Niebuhr
2. Isolating yourself when you’re feeling down
When we are struggling in life or pained, people who love you notice and sometimes opening up to them lifts the burden you are feeling. Always remember to reach out, ask for support. If you need a hug and you need someone to talk to, you can always count on your family.
We are like islands in the sea, separate on the surface but connected in the deep. ― William James
3. Keeping quiet and “going with the flow”
People tend to go with silence mode to avoid conflicts. But we forget that there is a way to negotiate things without even being a bully. Stand up for yourself, state your piece and say no to something you don’t want with respect and honesty.
Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul… There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU. ― Shannon L. Alder
4. Talking trash to yourself in your head
Many people would agree that negative self-talk isn’t motivating, it just functions to make you depressed, anxious, chronically guilty, and eventually hopeless.
If you begin to negative self-talk, make yourself busy and steer away from negative talking. Focus yourself on more meaningful and productive ways.
He who would be useful, strong, and happy must cease to be a passive receptacle for the negative, beggarly, and impure streams of thought. —James Allen
5. Trying to manage your stress
Stress management is a Band-Aid. It’s treating the symptoms. Stress isn’t the problem, it’s the constant stressors that are present in your life that makes you miserable. Try to eliminate stressors in your life and focus yourself on just being happy.
All you need to know in two words is LET GO. Let go of the habits that are keeping you unhappy and you won’t have to find happiness. It will have found you.
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Source: Nick Wignall
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